RELATIONSHIPS

Five months ago, I would have said that I believe in fairytales, love at first sight & true love. Now, to even hear me say that I believe that we were fated to meet, love & be together for all eternity, is unbelievable. I haven't even used such words in forever.


Girls love using the word fate don't they? They love to believe that such fairytales do happen and that one day, a prince will come riding on his white horse and save them from their plight. Oh my, how dreamy.

I believe in fantasies but with regards to romance, I no longer believe in stuff like... OH MY PRINCE IS HERE! HE'S GORGEOUS & BLAH BLAH!
I used to daydream that my love would be a handsome prince, who is the heir of some big company and that we would fall in love the first time we lay eyes on each other. I used to dream that we might always end up bumping into eachother and that he would save me from all of my worries.
Oh how prince-like & fairytale like but unfortunately, my love can't be an Edward Cullen and neither can he be like Joe Cheng's character in ISWAK.
Never.
I'm sorry but this is reality. I can never find such guys and neither will most of you. *shrugs*
Continue dreaming but don't hate me if you don't get what you want.


Really.
Idol dramas, shoujo mangas, fairytales, books... All encouraging the "perfect love". Perfect my ass. No such thing as perfect in this world!


In truth,
the things that make relationships work are...
The effort both parties put in.
I'm serious about it.


I believe in a relationship, both parties need to put in a lot of trust, love & hard work. Communication is essential. It's the most important thing. Other than that, both parties must learn how to sacrifice. Don't change, be yourself. It's important to remember who you are.



As a girl, what I really look for in a guy...
Is his ability to make me smile because if he can make me smile then everyday would be beautiful.
Other than that, he must be able to hold an intelligent conversation with me. (Yes, I may be stupid but I do love my men to be able to discuss politics etc)
Most importantly... He must be able to feel at ease with himself & with me. ((:




In the end, no matter how complex a relationship might seem...
It's actually really simple. You just need to observe it. (:





I'm sounding like an expert again, but like I said... I'm going to spend the rest of '08 being single just because I want to. I'm not ready yet.